Mmmm... that's geeky!

This is exactly the type of geekiness I most enjoy (and probably that I myself often display about my passions of choice). This guy draws, draws well, and is very knowledgeable about his tools and tips to work and maintain those tools. From auto mechanics to graphic artists, I really can appreciate this level of competence and joy in one's work.

(A twitter post from
Dave Kellet led me to this video.)

Today's Ctl+Alt+Del Comic

First, read the comic in question, then come back and see if I make any sense:

My first reaction was, “Does he have kids? A wife? Has he been through this?” I have, and it’s something I almost never talk about. My third child (a little boy we’d already named) was on the cusp of the third trimester when my wife was in a car accident. I lost them both. The joy of my two older children made me feel the loss of this almost-little-boy so strongly because I already knew what I was losing. It’s scary how much you love your kids, and I knew I’d never get to know him and love him. Just mourn for the life he never got to have.

It took me almost three years before I was done grieving for them, and it’s now close to six since the accident and I’m only writing about it because it’s upsetting to see people (even fictional characters) in this situation. At first, I thought that Tim Buckley (the creator of CTL+ALT+DEL) must just be tossing this in for drama and not have any real experience with it from his own life. How could he? If you’ve been through it, blithely tossing it into your gaming webcomic to “stress test” (his words) his characters’ relationship is just not something you’d do.

Except he says he
has been through this (though, he manages to sound extremely ego-centric and self-aggrandizing and oddly flippant when he does talk about it).

Some many years ago, long before I started the comic, I was in a relationship and we suffered a miscarriage. Now, this relationship was toxic to begin with and doomed to fail regardless, so that the miscarriage was the straw that broke the camel's back came as no surprise. It was a pregnancy neither of us wanted in the first place, so the event didn't effect me nearly as much as it would, say, a couple who was trying for a child. Still, I saw the emotions it can bring up first hand, and I saw how it could truly hurt someone.

Someone. Just not him, obviously. I’m sure somebody could write about this in a meaningful and profound way, but, again, just not him.

I already don’t read this comic. I tried, years ago, when I first encountered it, but it’s always been too vapid and shallow and almost too masturbatory (his real audience is himself - other readers are just incidental). I saw a twitter about it, this morning, or it would’ve gone completely under my radar. So I’m not trying to start controversy or shame the writer or cost him readers (I don’t think his typical readers would understand either, to be honest). I’m just saddened by the associations this particular comic dredged up, and and disappointed that Buckley’s not deep enough to truly grasp the emotional depth of his current subject matter.
Comments - 09/25/08

Just read it. 2 hankies

The Abominable Charles Christofer - 9/24/08

Today's Charles Christopher brought a tear to my eye. This had been building over the last few strips. 2 hankies

American Elf

The September 13 American Elf was really touching. 2 hankies

I've been through this, as I'm sure most parents have.
Comments (Avery Brooks Post)

This post had me tearing up. What a special moment to meet your heroes. How exiting to meet the people who's work has had such a large impact on your life. 2 hankies

The post also had me a bit angry at the raucous, jackass culture that has sprung up that is completely unable to do anything but mock and scold. It's a frightening lack of empathy, and empathy is a large part of what makes us human. The fact that a celebrity was a couple sheets to the wind isn't significant - we've all done it and it's not even remotely inappropriate given the time and place - what's significant is that they were having a relaxed moment and ended up mocked for it. Which probably is a large reason why it's simpler to stay isolated and keep such wonderful moments rare.

I would hate to be so emotionally damaged that all I had left was mockery and scorn and that I couldn't - even vicariously - be happy for others.

Stone Soup - July 9, 2008

This story line has been going on for a few days, but it's definitely worth going back to read. This strip is the culmination of the story line and just perfect in timing and tone. Plus, it was just the right resolution for the dilemma these two characters were in, and so sweet that it made me misty-eyed. Essentially, outside forces were putting unhealthy pressures on their relationship, and the creator making the boyfriend do this perfectly disarmed the situation and released the tension that had built over the past few days (probably enhancing the emotional reaction). Even the hair-stylist's reactions in the background is a nice little cherry on top of the sundae.

Bah, it's hard to really describe so just go back a week or two and read all the strips up until today (and keep going, if you like - this is a good comic). See if your reaction is any different than mine. 1 hankie

Todd and Penguin

He did it, again. 2 hankies

Todd and Penguin

I read a boatload of webcomics. I have 50 dailies, and about 30 M,W,F and maybe 15 weeklies that I read. One MWF that I really like is Todd and Penguin. It's one of three comics by David Wright, and they're all side projects for him (he writes for his local paper, if I recall). He and I have corresponded in the past and he's a nice guy doing his thing: raising a family with his wife and working on comics when he gets a chance.

Not too long ago, he introduced a new character to T&P in the form of Sicily the dog, and today, I guess he ended her story line. That's a rather unsympathetic way to phrase something that actually made me cry a good bit. It was a tenderly done strip and really got me weepy. 3 hankies

You should go back and read the whole series, or at least go back to when Sicily was introduced in order to get the full effect.